How many people actually marry for love?
People marry Mr or Mrs Right – the person they believe is good enough for them in their quest for marital bliss, but hardly for love.
Most times, people wake up and feel they are old enough to be married, so, they get married.
How often do people factor in love when pursuing married life?
How many people even understand what love is?
Many people don’t know what love is, even if it jumps and hits them on the nose.
You can have the hots for somebody but that doesn’t mean love. You just feel that person is built for your marital bed. So, what happens when that person no longer fits your bed?
Majority marry because they feel the person can take care of their needs, not because they feel a spark or anything.
If people married for love, marriages would hardly crash.
Don’t confuse lust for love. Lust is when your blokos is pulling you towards that person rather than your heart.
And don’t think you know love after watching Telemundo. There is more to that.
And some guys can only profess love to a woman when their cock is buried deep inside her. They never profess it sober.
When you are in love with someone, you can do almost anything for that person. Whatever you are doing, you put that person’s need first. Wherever you are, your action is like that person is right there with you. You never want to hurt that person.
And many marry in faith, believing love would develop later. And it happens for some people. They marry and then later fall in love or something close to that.
But don’t confuse love with need. Women who are approaching their middle age often fall into that pit hole. They develop this kind of dangerous need for their husband. They become needy; whining for attention because of their insecurity. They believe their body no longer holds their husband’s attention. There are men in that category too, those that married beautiful women who are way younger than them. They become clingy. That is not love.
The first time I encountered something that looked like love in action was as a teenager. I went with my friend to a hospital to greet a boy that drank poison because his girlfriend jilted him.
What baffled my young mind was that the stupid boy was still howling the girl’s name in the hospital like a mad person. His poor mother was there, hand in chin staring at him. I felt that was the height of treachery. How can that ungrateful boy do that to his parents?
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It was later in life I understood what happened to the boy. He had sex too early in life. That is why people are advised to avoid certain things until their brain has fully developed, like sex and horror movie.
When a young impressionable person engages in sex, he/she might think it is love. That suicidal boy must have confused infatuation for love. The only thing that would have cured him was to show him a short film of his life with the girl in the future; where he dropped out of school because she was pregnant and he became a labourer catering for eight children, and the wife raining abuses on his bald head.
If many people could see the future, they would think twice about what they call love now. And if they could see the future, they might know that they are in love right now but are too blind to see it.
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